When we think of an Indian marriage, even as an Indian we tend to generalise and think of typical Hindu weddings, Bengali weddings, Marwari weddings, and Gujarati weddings. Punjabi and Sikh weddings are popular too. South Indian weddings have an entirely new list of types on its own. They are all different from one another.
The Parsi wedding rituals span about a week. The wedding takes place in an agiary or in a baug. It is the fire temple, the holy temple of the Parsis. The groom goes on to the stage where the bride’s mother performs achumichu. It is a ritual where the bride’s mother circles raw eggs, rice, coconut, dates, and areca nuts and throws it over the groom’s head. She takes water and throws it on both his sides.
This is a typical ritual of a Parsi wedding. This ritual follows the rest of the wedding which is unique in itself. The wedding attire of the Parsi bride and the idea of the groom dresses are different along with the unique cuisines to give treat to your taste buds. The feast is lavish and there is a lot of music, dancing, and fun.
Malayali weddings are short and simple. There is a lot of fun and chatting and rendezvous with family and friends. But the rituals are simple, which is very different from other Indian weddings.
But the Malayali weddings are simple. The ceremony is called ‘velli’. The wedding takes place in the morning, contrary to most Indian weddings being held in the evenings. The groom ties a ‘thali’ around his new bride’s neck at the end of all the rituals and blessings and that is wrap up of the rituals. The fun and frolic continues.
The simplicity reflects in a typical Buddhist wedding. This is the least extravagant of all Indian weddings. Yet, the charm of a Buddhist wedding is unparalleled. Just some prayers, simple rituals and vows are enough to tie two lives together if that is their intent.
Not only does a Buddhist wedding not involve a lot of money, or jewelry, and extravagant expenses. It also does not involve elaborate rituals or fixed rules. The bride and groom get married at a monastery. Buddhist temples are licensed to legalize marriages. So, the wedding is done quickly and that is it.
Jain weddings have the typical Indian wedding structure in its rituals. There is a lagan lekhan, a lagna patrika vachan, and a sagai. For the wedding, there is baraati, phere, granthi bandhan, and there is kanya daan. The wedding follows ashirvaad and swah graham agaman. All these terms are self-explanatory because other Indian weddings also have them.
But what sets the Jain wedding apart from everything else is the ritual of Jina Grahe Dhan Arpana. This is a custom where the families of the bride and groom offer donations to the poor after a prayer at the temple. But a Jain wedding is incomplete without it’s after wedding rituals and the generosity and philanthropy is a part of the Jain wedding ritual.
Oriya weddings are simple and have common rituals. But there are some distinctive rituals like the pre wedding ceremony of Jayee Anukulo. This is simply the ceremony of distributing invitation cards for the wedding.
Most Indian weddings don’t involve the invitations as part of the wedding rituals. Then there is the Baadua Pani Gadhua ritual where the bride takes a holy bath before the wedding. Oriya weddings are quiet and simple.
Assamese weddings begin with the bride and groom’s mothers fetching holy water on the morning of the wedding day for the bride and groom to take a holy bath. The Assamese wedding too is simple. Traditionally, the feast used is as simple as a meal of rice, curd, and jaggery. But now, a lavish and elaborate feast is served. In a typical Assamese wedding, the feast comes before the wedding.
The unique ritual of Kannada weddings comes when the bride is accompanied to the mandap by her sisters. Her face is covered by a peacock feather fan. This is typical to a Kannada wedding as the betel leaf is typical to a Bengali wedding. The rituals of Dhare Herdu and Satapadi are important wedding rituals. Kannada weddings are lavish or simple, depending upon what the families involved chose to have.
Kashmiri weddings are elaborate and the rituals are pretty unique. The Kasamdry or engagement ritual follows Livun, which is a ceremonial cleaning of both, the groom’s and the bride’s houses. Other pre-wedding rituals include krool khanoon, wanvun, thaal, maenziraat, snazaroo, kanishran, and some more.
The wedding involves a lavish welcome to the groom, followed by lagan and posh puza. Post wedding rituals include the bride’s vidaai followed by a warm welcome for her into her new home.
Marwari weddings are extravagant throughout. The pre-wedding ceremonies, the wedding, the post-wedding ceremonies are all elaborate events in themselves. The Pithi Dastoor ritual sets the Marwari wedding apart from other Indian weddings.
It is a pre-wedding ritual that continues till the wedding day itself. The usual sagaai, phere, kanya daan, are all there. In addition to those, there are mehfils and paanigrahan. Marwari weddings are marked by extravagant jewellery covering both, the bride and the groom.
There is a lot more to know about each of these types of Indian weddings. Follow our ClickDate blog to explore more about Indian weddings.