Some gay men find that they have trouble making gay friends with guys or join gay community after they come out. Making new friends with women is easy, but when it comes to approaching a guy, it’s close to impossible to start a conversation and make gay connect. Thus, it is not possible to meet new gay friends and even a possible relationship.
First, there’s nothing wrong with having a troop full of females. BFF’s come in a variety of packages. The problem is that chilling with the girls leaves little room to meet men. They keep you occupied, you keep them occupied. And, in all likelihood, none of you have a special man in your life.
Enter a gay social event and some are cruising, some boozing, others schmoozing. It’s like a free for all. And, in a room full of gays or during the gay community events it’s difficult to know what’s going to happen.
It takes practice. If your comfort lies with the girls, that’s why you have no problem being in the Sisterhood Of The Traveling Pants. But, if it makes you uncomfortable you should probably try it on. It is through this discomfort that your brain are trained into comfort. By actively seeking out the discomfort, the anxiety and tension lessen and eventually, the action becomes comfortable.
So, get those girls of yours to go out to the gay bar with you or to a social event at the gay community. This time, instead of focusing on them, make it a point to start a conversation or flirt a little with at least one boy. It’s going to be extremely uncomfortable and your crew will probably giggle, but eventually, you’ll strike gay gold and meet someone cool.
